Leadership Coaching and Career Coaching Tip

There has been heaps of research to indicate that one of the top reasons people leave a job is their Leader.


For some people this is because they have a poor or non-existent relationship with the person they report to and don’t feel valued. This is what I often hear:

“I don’t get recognised for my hard work and sacrifices”.

“I have a poor or non-existent relationship with my Manager”.

“I can’t relate to my boss’s values and behaviours and so I just avoid difficult conversations as I hate conflict and need this job”.

“My Leader is never around and often reschedules my catch-ups which makes me  feel unvalued”.

If this sounds like people in your organisation you are not alone! However staying with this thinking is not going to change the relationship. Remember that famous definition of insanity….keep doing what we have always done and guess what?

So if you have people that:

  • Like or need the job;
  • Enjoy the people and culture;
  • Like the flexibility or location;
  • Close to being promoted;
  • Find the work interesting…….. but don’t like their Manager and or Leader, here are CIT’s 3 Easy Steps to pass on, to improve that relationship and retain good people.
Leadership Coaching Step 1 – CONNECT

Connect with your thoughts. Are they saying “This isn’t fair” or “She or he is unreasonable” or “He or she isn’t accounable”. Be honest with yourself here, are you blaming or being a victim to your own thinking?

Leadership Coaching Step 2 – INSPIRE

Who do you aspire to be in your professional world? Is it someone who blames, defends or avoids? Or is it someone who can move towards difficult conversations or tasks with courage? How can your values inspire you to behave towards what is important to you?

Leadership Coaching Step 3 – TRANSFORM

Write down what could be a small step “towards” your boss. It could even be a  micro-step. Some examples are:

  • Listen to your Leader in a meeting when you would prefer to look at your device or wish you were on a beach. Notice when you mind drifts off, and bring it back. You may miss the most important thing you need to hear that day, or the part of your Leader’s message that is actually important to you.
  • Write that report you think is a waste of time and then ask your Manager/Leader about their view on the report. Maybe they think it is a waste of time too! Maybe they need to speak to their Leader!
  • For others it might be time to ask your boss to meet and discuss your concerns. The first time you make this step, may rear difficult thoughts and emotions. However the more often you do this, difficult conversations transform to inspired, problem solving conversations.

The more you practice making moves towards your values, the easier it will become and can transform your relationship with your Leader.

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I hope this was of value and you are having a Prosperous 2018,

Warmly, Margie Ireland
Leadership Coaching